One of the most difficult things to do when you are dealing
with a loved one who is abusing a substance is to admit that your attempts to
help are actually causing more harm than good. In general when you care about
someone it is natural to want to help them, and keep them from harming
themselves or anyone else for that matter. This instinct doesn’t go away
because someone is an alcoholic, it may actually even become more intense. You
can see that your loved one is ill and you want to do anything within your
power to help them, and keep them out of trouble.
Is Your Help Really
Helping? How Helping Can Actually Be Enabling Alcoholism
The problem is the more that you do to help, and keep them
from facing the consequences of their actions the more you are actually
becoming part of the problem.
This can be difficult to face, even when you deeply
understand that you are doing more harm than good.
Part of this may stem from everyone’s desire to feel wanted.
It’s a natural thing to want to be loved, and feel needed by the people you
surround yourself with. An addict may be especially grateful when you rescue
them from a bad situation. Enabling others can actually become an addiction of
its own. It feels good to help others, and that’s what you convince yourself that
you are doing.
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